The Need to Say No
In adolescence in particular there is a strong need to call out those things that are fake, those niceties required by society but performed without any sincerity. This impulse, the impulse to say no to the half-truths of the world, is, I think, a deep spiritual impulse, one that never entirely goes away as one gets older. Perhaps as we grow older we learn the instrumental value of little white lies, of picking our battles. But in some sense we want the freedom to yell out "No!", to set aside the expectations of others and the roles we have assumed and shout out the contrary, more direct and more honest truth we harbor within. I think we all have a hunger for unrefined truths, especially when they have been long suppressed. The truths of the soul are quiet and difficult to obtain. This early form of resistance is the potential beginning of something much more significant, the capacity for deep listening to the callings of one's true self. When we are adults, teachers...